We are living now at Abu Dhabi with our children staying away far off in the west.
This state of living alone is frustrating.
It is felt very much during the weekends during fridays & saturdays of every week. We have nothing to do during weekends here especially in this hot climate.
Gulf & Middle east is not new to us, we have lived in Muscat for 10 years, when our children were studying. We had a lot of friends in those days, all those friends were maojorly due to our children. We used to meet with our friends everyweekend at parties.
Nowadays we hardly have any friends, it is also difficult to befriend any body new at this age. Most of the week ends we go to movies, it is a sort of time pass for me atleast since I never used to go for movies, now I am viewing all the new releases.
We have located a new park at Abu Dhabi which is quite new, which we will go regularly from now on weekends.
At least if the children were staying with us we would be busy with them although there will be a generation gap. I do not know how far this practical especially in the present days when every body is going places.
The problem would be more aggravated if we return to India for good since my wife would be busy with her own Bhajan group, whwere as I would be left alone since I have been a naomad for the past 20 years, living outside India. Although there will be suggestions from others to keep myself occupied in some activities which will keep me busy, I will have to explore that yet.
Considering all these factors joint family system is far better than the nuclear ones.
Saturday 12 April 2008
Thursday 10 April 2008
Awareness-2
AWARENESS (2)
This is like Dhoom 2.
Last month I wrote a post on the same subject, ‘Awareness’, of course that was in a different context, it was on our real physical surroundings in which one has to be cautious.
This post which I am writing now is a terminology which is quite often used in Art of Living (AOL) sessions. When I heard it in the beginning, it was quite abstract, was not very clear what the teacher is trying to convey.
Let us try to analyze this terminology.
The definition of ‘Awareness’ as per wikipedia is as follows:
In biological psychology, awareness comprises a human's or an animal's perception and cognitive reaction to a condition or event. Awareness does not necessarily imply understanding, just an ability to be conscious of, feel or perceive.
In other words it is our perception or feeling to an event in our day today life.
Our perception is based on our knowledge & understanding.
At this point of time, I would like to bring certain view points on the terminology, knowledge & awareness. Generally we take it both meaning the same, but actually there is a subtle difference, let me explain this by an example:
We all know that smoking is injurious to health, it will lead to cancer etc. This is knowledge. Doctor also knows this, but you might come across doctors smoking heavily. Why so, they are in a helpless situation since they feel smoking is unavoidable, don’t feel like giving up. This situation leads to unawareness (feeling of inability to give up). So knowledge alone is not good, unless you put forth in practice. Practicing knowledge becomes awareness.
Let me narrate another incident that happened in our office a couple of days before to explain more in detail about ‘Awareness’.
We go for inspection of different sections of the company on a monthly basis after giving prior notifications well in advance so that the section’s designated representative is also present with us during the inspection so that if there is any discrepancy it can be sorted out immediately on the spot.
On one day in one section, the concerned person of the section was not present, he did not inform us anything about his absence. He was not answering his mobile too. All other members of the team requested that the inspection be completed. According to the code it is mandatory for the section representative to be present; hence I declined & cancelled the inspection. This was the second time in the past three months he was defaulting. I wrote to my boss about his attitude in ignoring the inspections. Next day I got an apology mail from the section rep that he regretted his action & sought a fresh date. Every body came & congratulated me that I cancelled the inspection. At that particular moment I started bloating, feeling high in my ego. Then I very well remembered ego should be avoided at all costs, this knowledge combined with feeling of humility brought me the awareness, which is very often talked about in our follow up sessions.
Hence awareness is a feeling of the knowledge which you have acquired.
This is like Dhoom 2.
Last month I wrote a post on the same subject, ‘Awareness’, of course that was in a different context, it was on our real physical surroundings in which one has to be cautious.
This post which I am writing now is a terminology which is quite often used in Art of Living (AOL) sessions. When I heard it in the beginning, it was quite abstract, was not very clear what the teacher is trying to convey.
Let us try to analyze this terminology.
The definition of ‘Awareness’ as per wikipedia is as follows:
In biological psychology, awareness comprises a human's or an animal's perception and cognitive reaction to a condition or event. Awareness does not necessarily imply understanding, just an ability to be conscious of, feel or perceive.
In other words it is our perception or feeling to an event in our day today life.
Our perception is based on our knowledge & understanding.
At this point of time, I would like to bring certain view points on the terminology, knowledge & awareness. Generally we take it both meaning the same, but actually there is a subtle difference, let me explain this by an example:
We all know that smoking is injurious to health, it will lead to cancer etc. This is knowledge. Doctor also knows this, but you might come across doctors smoking heavily. Why so, they are in a helpless situation since they feel smoking is unavoidable, don’t feel like giving up. This situation leads to unawareness (feeling of inability to give up). So knowledge alone is not good, unless you put forth in practice. Practicing knowledge becomes awareness.
Let me narrate another incident that happened in our office a couple of days before to explain more in detail about ‘Awareness’.
We go for inspection of different sections of the company on a monthly basis after giving prior notifications well in advance so that the section’s designated representative is also present with us during the inspection so that if there is any discrepancy it can be sorted out immediately on the spot.
On one day in one section, the concerned person of the section was not present, he did not inform us anything about his absence. He was not answering his mobile too. All other members of the team requested that the inspection be completed. According to the code it is mandatory for the section representative to be present; hence I declined & cancelled the inspection. This was the second time in the past three months he was defaulting. I wrote to my boss about his attitude in ignoring the inspections. Next day I got an apology mail from the section rep that he regretted his action & sought a fresh date. Every body came & congratulated me that I cancelled the inspection. At that particular moment I started bloating, feeling high in my ego. Then I very well remembered ego should be avoided at all costs, this knowledge combined with feeling of humility brought me the awareness, which is very often talked about in our follow up sessions.
Hence awareness is a feeling of the knowledge which you have acquired.
Sunday 6 April 2008
Matrimony Search
Matrimony Search
I will give a piece of advice to all those who are looking for a suitable bride or bridegroom, whether it is parent or individual, through many matrimony portals that are available today in the web. This is out of my own experience.
When you register, please do it with whole heart, do not do a half heated attempt, I mean, please fill in all the columns of the portal, do not leave anything blank unless it is not directly applicable to you or your ward. Please imagine, when some one is surfing through various profiles, the profiles with least information will attract least attention. Please give out all your interests & hobbies in detail, these days youth are looking for people with interest in life, gone are those days when money making ability was the only consideration. Parents! please ask your children to write their own details instead of you writing about your ward’s quality, you will not do justice to that, leave it to them; they will do a better job. Please provide all details such as horoscope, photo, contact details such as phone etc without fail, which will make things easier & faster too.
Photo, is a very important feature of the matrimony. Pl upload photos taken by professionals, that will be good looking, do not upload pictures taken in a casual manner. Nowadays, before any serious discussion starts, photo is the breaking point. So if you are expecting good success rate, please upload good photos. Upload as much photos as possible. Be practical, do not argue, “I am what I am, I do not want to pose for a special photo for matrimony”. These days marriages are getting delayed due to various extraneous reasons; let us not add to that.
For ease of operations, please use gmail, since this will keep all your mails of one contact in the same folder which will make one’s life easy for handling correspondence. Otherwise, you will run helter-skelter in searching the correspondence. At one glance you will be able to glance through all correspondence provided you always handle correspondence only thro’ you gmail id.
Yet another secret, please do not sit tight if there is no response from the other party, send a gentle reminder, it works, people wake up, shake themselves up as they want their wards to be married. These days people hesitate to contact since all are scattered, priorities are different, hence to ensure success early days, better be serious & follow rigorously.
In other words, it should be run like an office, you should keep tables of correspondence with details, which makes easy for follow up.
I will give a piece of advice to all those who are looking for a suitable bride or bridegroom, whether it is parent or individual, through many matrimony portals that are available today in the web. This is out of my own experience.
When you register, please do it with whole heart, do not do a half heated attempt, I mean, please fill in all the columns of the portal, do not leave anything blank unless it is not directly applicable to you or your ward. Please imagine, when some one is surfing through various profiles, the profiles with least information will attract least attention. Please give out all your interests & hobbies in detail, these days youth are looking for people with interest in life, gone are those days when money making ability was the only consideration. Parents! please ask your children to write their own details instead of you writing about your ward’s quality, you will not do justice to that, leave it to them; they will do a better job. Please provide all details such as horoscope, photo, contact details such as phone etc without fail, which will make things easier & faster too.
Photo, is a very important feature of the matrimony. Pl upload photos taken by professionals, that will be good looking, do not upload pictures taken in a casual manner. Nowadays, before any serious discussion starts, photo is the breaking point. So if you are expecting good success rate, please upload good photos. Upload as much photos as possible. Be practical, do not argue, “I am what I am, I do not want to pose for a special photo for matrimony”. These days marriages are getting delayed due to various extraneous reasons; let us not add to that.
For ease of operations, please use gmail, since this will keep all your mails of one contact in the same folder which will make one’s life easy for handling correspondence. Otherwise, you will run helter-skelter in searching the correspondence. At one glance you will be able to glance through all correspondence provided you always handle correspondence only thro’ you gmail id.
Yet another secret, please do not sit tight if there is no response from the other party, send a gentle reminder, it works, people wake up, shake themselves up as they want their wards to be married. These days people hesitate to contact since all are scattered, priorities are different, hence to ensure success early days, better be serious & follow rigorously.
In other words, it should be run like an office, you should keep tables of correspondence with details, which makes easy for follow up.
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